Bugsy - many times in life we are required to do things that we simply don't want to do. Sometimes it is galling that we would even consider it an obligation. BUT, in our hearts we know we must do it anyway.
I think keeping your H informed of your son's condition and progress or lack thereof is the right thing to do. The question I have is, can you tell him without having any expectations that he is going to do anything with the information?
I think that you are probably going to have to get used to the idea that all you can do and what you feel you must do, is simply keep him informed. Think of it like taking out the trash. No one likes to do it (except for maybe...well we all know about my problem with that ) but we do it anyway.
Keep your H informed but with the same level of detachment you would have if taking out the trash.
Hope this helps!
Yes, you do have the trash issue.
It's the expectation issue that makes me not want to contact him and I know that's my problem.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
) but we do it anyway.