Wif H of girl 4 called me. Girl 4 and he are not doing well. He is dealing with the same WAW behavior as the rest of us. Tried to encourage him to take care of himself. I wish there was more I could do. His wife was out all night with mine. He had texted her, but she never responded. Par for the course. Unfortunately, if things don't soon change for them for the better, I think it will be the end for them. She seems very intent on doing her thing and shutting him out totally. She and my wife seem to have become best friends.
There is no shortage of enablers out there, and when two of them get together they feed off of each other. They become WAW's on steroids. There's nothing you or your buddy can do but work on yourselves and leave them to it. My W had a similar enabler, a woman whose H had multiple affairs before she finally kicked him out. Her and W were best buds, going out partying, constantly texting each other all hours of the day and night, etc. Interestingly once W moved out they started growing farther and farther apart, now they barely talk. I haven't been exposed to a lot of these enabler relationships, but the ones I have seen all burned out, and sooner rather than later.
