wow, everything has it's own difficulties.

to me, a personal boundary is just something i cannot live with. it's sad if the other person doesn't like it or thinks it's unreasonable, intolerant, or uncompromising. it's what i NEED in order to NOT feel resentment.

i think your boundary WAS compromising. you stated that you would hold dinner under certain circumstances. to do anything otherwise, would have been uncompromising on your H's part. he wanted it ALL his way and was disrespectful to you and your S.

you had an obligation to your 3-year-old to feed him and put him to bed at a reasonable time.

the problem with your SS was really your H's but he tried to make it yours.

people don't always like boundaries from another person but that does not make them wrong. you have to protect yourself, IMO.


M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing