HD Trying To Save Marriage!

[Scott1701]

I'm going to jump here with a comment as a long time lurker and not a very big contributor.

I think many of the guys posting here are around my age, lowerto mid-40's, and I was brought up in the era when guys didn't express feelings and you sucked it in and dealt with it without showing much emotion or even expressing it. This has left some of us with pretty much only having anger that we can express and even then a great deal of problems in communicating emotion. Even when things changed culturally on guys expressing feelings, some of us still have a great deal of trouble in that area. It's like people said it's ok to express feelings and we said "Cool, now what are those and how do I express them?" It is quite hard to try and communicate in a language that you never had a chance to learn when young and are trying to learn it as an older person. So phyisical communuication and showing love by doing things are a way many of us have used and now that doesn't work we're left lost and are trying to feel our way forward in an area that we are clueless about.

I think for many of us it's the frustration that the rules changed after we were started in the game and we're trying hard to learn the new rules, but are at a loss for even trying.

Scott