Okay, I need more info. You have two children, 6 and 2? Is that correct? Are either of your children 'high maintenance children? Meaning, do one or both physically or mentally exhaust your wife or you beyond the normal parenting routine?
What time do the kids go to bed? When they go to bed, are they in bed for the night, or do they crawl in bed with you at some point? If so, at what point? What is the bedtime routine? Does she typically fall asleep with them and then later come to bed with you? You get my drift...
What are your work schedules? Meaning, when do you leave the home and when do you return? Is there over-time involved for either you or her? Do projects sometimes get brought home, do they frequently get brought home, or do they never get brought home?
What 'hobbies' does your wife enjoy? If you gave her 3 hours to herself, what would she do?
On a scale of 1 to 10, where does the house's neatness or cleanliness, especially the kitchen, rate -- one being low, 10 being high.
Who does the cooking in the house, you or her?
Is she responsible with money, or do you feel that she spends too much?
Do you have any pets? If so, who takes care of said pets?
What are her FAVORITE TV shows, what night(s) of the week are they on, and at what time? What time does she like to have 'lights out?'
Answer these questions, and then for the next two weeks WATCH her. Make SURE you really know her routines. Monitor her moods. She'll have good days and bad. Find out WHY. Write everything down, even if you don't understand it. Also write down your actions, words, and responses to her and the correlating responses, actions from her. Try to be objective and thorough. Don't SPY on her, observe her. Big dif.
If at any time during the next two weeks you initiate sex and get turned down, write EVERYTHING down. What you did, what you said, what she did, what she said, where it happened, when, etc.
In short, STUDY your wife. Her facial expressions, what makes her laugh, what makes her mad, what makes her sad, ALL her non-verbal cues...
