I think this might be a typical thing for a WAS. On the day of my BD, my W packed to go housesit for a relative as previously arranged. The next time I saw her after that was over two months later in court. We talked about meeting and talking, but she continually backed out of it. She came over once and picked up more stuff once when she knew I would be at work. That felt wrong to me, and I asked her not to do it again. I moved out of there at the end of that month, and she finally picked up the rest of her stuff on the last possible day. She left a lot behind.
I know what you mean, I felt if I could just talk to her face-to-face after the BD, things might be different. Hell, maybe she did too, and maybe that's why she has avoided me ever since. I guess it's easier for us to believe things like that than to detach and accept things for what they are.
