[in_it]

Well, I'm having a rough morning. My mind is making me crazy. It just won't stop. I need some advice.

I've been doing really well with keeping myself busy & doing things for myself. I had an extra long run yesterday & it felt great. Dinner with my girlfriends was much needed & very pleasant. We had great conversation & even enjoyed a relaxing glass of wine. I've made a promise to myself to commit to more stuff like this.

Now to my dilemma & what is keeping my mind racing--H has not really spoken to me in 2 days. Monday & Tuesday were awful in regards to communication. I heard him leaving OW a message. H does not talk to her on the phone when me or our kids are in his presence. I did not know where he was or what he was doing until I came up on him in our closet leaving the message. He doesn't know I heard him & I don't plan on telling him either.

In the message H said that he wished she would answer her phone, that he had called her 15 times & nothing. That the last 2 days for them have not been good & he thinks that they should just end it now. But then in the very next sentence he stated that if they wanted to see each other again to make sure it was over he would up for that. He also said he would be willing to listen to her if she wanted to talk.

I know that whatever it is going on with him & OWs relationship is what is causing him to pull back from me & not talk or have conversation. He's been in a foul mood & seems sad & depressed. They have been texting back & forth like crazy. I have no idea what about. He didn't mention any details in the message he left her.

After going to bed he got back up about an hour later. He tried calling her again. After several attempts she finally answered & he was on the phone with her for 1.5 hours. I stayed in bed & have no idea what they talked about. I wish I knew where they stand?

So, my question is this: I want to ask him what is wrong. I want ask him if I did something wrong because he hasn't really talked to me in 2 days & if it's something I did I would like to know. Is this a bad idea? I don't want to mention the OW or anything I just really want to see what he says when I ask him about something being wrong. I want him to know that I've noticed the difference in his behavior. What do you think? Advice please!!