He's confused, doesn't want a divorce, but "can't touch the burner again with fear of getting burned."

This is golden, take it and run with it. He wants to love you but he wants you to fix yourself. He's not making this up as you say yourself you have issues that you promised to fix but didn't.

Give him time and space and get busy on creating the new you.
Write some goals.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss