You handled that well. The trigger-response-defense happens so quickly that it's difficult to slow down. But you did. And always remember, unless your house is on fire, no decisions need to be made in the midst of an emotional storm. Take your time, breathe and think. Have you identified the feelings you have when that response starts? That can help you recognize it early.
If he has a drinking problem, it's his problem and even more reason for you to detach. If his drinking is a problem for you, then it's a problem for you. Even more reason to detach and go to AlAnon.
If you don't want him drinking in your house, you can let him know your boundary.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
