I finished the book last night and put it on her night table. Tonight I am going to apply the "if she's not deaf, she hears you" principle. I'll make sure to communicate the fact that I think the book can help her understand my feelings. Then I won't mention it again and see what happens.
Father_Of_Three, you have a very good point. Reading all the tragic stories on this board has made me realize that my situation could be a lot worse. I'm going to try to see the glass as half full and not get resentful.
Another thing I realized from the book was how my reaction to the problem makes it worse. When I get hurt, I usually raise my voice, and that is a big desire-killer for a nurturing person like my W. Another thing I do when she refuses sex is to "roll over and play dead". Next time I'm going to do the opposite. I will say, "No problem," and cuddle up to her.
