we own a biz - pt 4

[makingmagic]

I've been thinking how it actually happened. We were in the kitchen and I noticed that he had layed down some planks of hardwood on the floor. I asked him about it. He is confused about doing a reno to make our area more liveable (this was an option as well when I lived there as a temp living solution), but ultimately he wants to move out. His hands were flailing about, and I reached to grab them and motion him to sit down. He was stressing, but did not want to sit at that time. Yes, I took this moment and approached. But, I feel I did alot more listening than I did talking (180). MrBond... I will not lead, I will dig deep for patience and wait to follow.

Earlier today, I listened to him tell me that it is important to live a life "NOW", that he realizes that his life is short and how he is going to do things to be happy (he now has a clean bill of health, he was worried). This is coming from Mr. Workaholic, who now says that he has changed.

Ad ~ he is forced to live there due to business. He wants to move out but feels trapped. I know the circumstance and I understand and know this to be true. I know he is lonely and would easily move us back in, but fears he wouldn't ever get out.

I am letting it go... for now... will patiently wait for this "list" to surface. I like your advice Advina. I will listen, I will validate it, I will not argue it. I will take from it and think about it, for awhile. I will not react. I will sit on it. As for the hugs/affection, you are right...he has forgotten how to come forward, and this is not ok for me. I will back off again...completely. I just wanted him to know that affection was important to me, and if he wanted to hug, to reach out.

Random text message from h at 10pm: "I realize you are working hard to sell product...paperwork...computer time etc... just so you know.."

I replied: "nice that you notice and tell me. thank you. goodnight"

(this is his 180, looking for good things to appreciate in the day)... even if it is about work.