Offer on house. It is close. Negotiating through tomorrow. W yelled at me in front of agent for trying to make us more money. Calling me names and puting marital issues in front of agent....how embarrassing. I have been negotiating for 30+ years and she wants to give tens of thousands away. My kids are going to freak when sold.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
I think she did that a long time ago. Now it is time to be me again. The one she supposedly loved so much and for so long but now hates.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
W has agreed to offer on the house. I have until mid-morning Friday to accept. It is $11k less than what was my bottom line so I guess that is close. It is an emotional time. My d10 is freaked out. My W is so cold and ignores d10 about it. She cries to me. I don't think I have a choice but to accept the deal on a legal front and to get things over with too. This is he'll. No turning back now. She is one lost and angry person. It still boggles my mind. We had it all....so I thought. Duped and duped and duped. She wanted the perfect model family to project but a private life on the side. She could not have both so apparently it's my fault.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Yes, there is bitterness and blame. I guess dishing out what I have received but not nearly what I have received.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Yes, but swallowing it is just as bad....how are you going to deal with this?
It will be hard on kids to move, sure, but let me tell you one little thing, if you are okay with it, your kids will be too. Yes, you can say I loved this house, yes you can be sad to move, but you can explain that a home is where you and kids are. Where there are paintings on the fridge.
Kids are young enough to be included in the process such as, let's pick a colour to paint new room, or what should be the first thing we buy for the new place etc.
Make it your own Floyd....own this because you are letting it own you instead, do you see that? I get the feeling that you are,as the posts above say, blaming and feeling sorry and bitter.
F*ck it.....own the situation, it's happening you can't stop it and you need to accept it and do the best you can. You need to come out strong, you need to support your kids.
Be the guy you want to be, and if that fails, be the guy you need to be.
PS Road trip this summer to meet and greet a couple DBers...you in?
