I have been thinking about where my wife is currently on a mental and emotional level and taking in her actions and gestures of the last few weeks. (refusing help from me, taking her ring off, being independant etc)
I really believe she is on a journey to discover her own self and inner strength again and I dont see this as a bad thing. Unfortunately the difficulties in our M and my over-reaction and threat of divorce was the catalyst for her to question what she wants in life. I dont blame her. She doesnt want a shitty marriage and tension at home.

I hope she can find that amazing, strong and independant woman again, the one i fell in love with and inspired me, gave me strength and brought so much optimism and love to my life and those around her. I think somewhere in the last few years that woman dissapeared behind motherhood, careers, moving homes and a husband who didnt speak her love languages or pay her enough respect. Understanding this helps make this whole sitch somehow make sense and easier to deal with.

Me - 37
W - 37
M -5
T - 15

S=5
S=3

Seperated - 12/12
BD - 20/03/13
Still seperated - no R or M talk yet.