Sandi's tips vs bounderies

[willbwell]

Can't go totally silent. I give info on d when he asks for updates. He'll ask about my day. I am pleasant and friendly. Try to be vague. It's hard. Try to only have convo about kids schedules.
H asks tonight about coming over tomorrow so I can get out a bit. Didn't click initially then realized, oh yeah, tomorrow is my bday. In the past, we celebrated all bdays by going to dinner or picking up something for home. Now, I get to go plan something for myself instead of being with my family. That pisses me off. Of course I'll GAL and use the time to go to yoga then meet a friend for a quick drink...and I'll return home with a smile on my face. Wish I could say to H just leave us alone. Go do your selfish thing but that is no solution and not fair to kids.