we own a biz - pt 4

[makingmagic]

Yes/no PON... he was talking of us getting back. Yes, I did give affection where I shouldn't have. However, he is one who typically waits for my affection first. I think he is afraid to do affection for fear of getting into it & then how do you pull out if you change your mind? He still wants the option to back out of any commitment. He doesn't want me at THIS house because he doesn't see it as us EVER getting out of there. He wants to live away from his mom, but has 2 years worth of packing in that old place. He finds it hard to see a light at the end of that tunnel. Its not about not living with me, but about feeling like we would get too comfy again there. The "list" that he wants to create is about boundaries (rel'p do's dont's). I think this is a good thing. I will back off and wait to see what happens next.

Please tell me of your sitch how u did similar things and what the outcome was.. and then please tell me the best plan of action from where u were and where I am to get to where you are now. What was your time frame? My h is very stubborn but my daughter sees this as part of a loving way that he doesnt want us to screw up, therefore he is super sssslllllooooowww and cautious.