I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's like something always comes up and pours salt over the wound. All I can advise you to do (because it has helped me tremendously) is go to 30 meetings in 30 days. You need to work on detaching.
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017