Wife cancelled her IC session today. Not sure why. Didn't ask. Didn't tell. She never even told me she had an appointment. I found out through looking the person up on the Internet after it showed up on my calendar.

H of girl 4 called me. Girl 4 and he are not doing well. He is dealing with the same WAW behavior as the rest of us. Tried to encourage him to take care of himself. I wish there was more I could do. His wife was out all night with mine. He had texted her, but she never responded. Par for the course. Unfortunately, if things don't soon change for them for the better, I think it will be the end for them. She seems very intent on doing her thing and shutting him out totally. She and my wife seem to have become best friends.

Wife is very disconnected from me today. Had couples massage, then lunch for me, drink for her, then stopped for coffee. My wife is VERY upset and frustrated with her lack of a career. Literally started to cry in restaurant when she talked about it. She doesn't like to she'd tears. She's very much like a man when it comes to that. Looks at crying as unproductive.

I made sure to tell her just how grateful I am for everything that she has given for our family. That I could see how much she was hurting and how angry she was to be in this situation. She really reminds me of someone who comes back from war missing a limb or confined to a wheelchair and the anguish that they suffer as they struggle to accept where they are and what they are facing. It made me feel very inadequate to see her that way. I could only listen and try to see things her way and validate her loss.

I did my absolute best to communicate to her my willingness to do anything it took for her to achieve a happier place in her life. A move, a job change, a new position, more help with house, kids, downsize, whatever!

I still don't know if what I said helps. I tried offering suggestions, but quickly stopped when she would find fault with every one of them. Was I trying to fix? Probably. Went back to listening.

The only things I know are that she isn't happy, and the loss of her career has a lot to do with it.

I am willing to do whatever it takes for her to be happy. This is gonna take a long time!