Ruby and GTO, thank you for the hugs! I really needed them! FY, the little kiss is a nice extra perk :-)
Busting, your kind words are always comforting.
I am always OK doing things on my own. But church alone on Easter wasn't the best idea. You live you learn.
Also, you are 100% right about not jumping into any R too soon. My H is an example. We were supposed to do taxes on Saturday, and he emailed me that he had to cancel and could we do them "remotely." I replied asking if it was the woman who had said he could not see me. He called and said that was the case. I asked him how he could've told me he "wanted to be free and not have to answer to anyone" and that's why he wanted a divorce even though I was "perfect on paper," and now he was involved with a woman who didn't even let him do taxes at the library. He said I was right, and that he'd had a very "unhealthy" conversation with the woman last night. She basically said that if we did taxes together, she was breaking up w him. Talk about controlling and insecure. So what my H was most afraid of is what he is attracting into his life: control. He said he knows this might not be the R for him but he wants to "explore it" more, so he asked for options to do the taxes. I said there was no option but to do them together. I could be flexible and do them during the week at lunch time, I said. He said he would think about it and let me know.
Oh, and I said that it was the woman's issue if she was so insecure, and that this is what she got for dating a married man. He said the D was supposed to be finalized in January. I said it wasn't. He said I was right.
I think he says I am right to pacify me. He always did it in the past. Whatever.
I was SO ANGRY! I still AM!
Need to read my own book again to help myself. Isn't that funny?
