First ,thank you all for the wonderful comments, I really appreciate the support
Next, I have a new GAL activity- Bingo! I never thought I was the Bingo "type", but I got invited along and thought "why not?" Of course I won the first time out which greatly aggravated the people I was with, LOL!
I've also been contacted by Habitat for Humanity, I've been volunteering with them and building houses, but the projects have been far from me (30 minute drive each way) which has been pretty inconvenient. They're starting a new chapter in my area though and they want to bring me in possibly as a construction coordinator. So that'll be fun!
Weather is getting very spring-like here and I've started my gardening activities too. I have a whole tiki-themed area around my pool, lots of custom pieces I commissioned a tiki artist in California to carve. Every year I have to sand all the pieces down and reseal them. Then plant some goodies in the planters around the pool and gazebo. It usually takes me a few weekends to get it all done, but it's relaxing work. The pool has a big stone waterfall and grotto with a seating area inside it, and I built a patio structure using poles and beams carved by the tiki artist. There's also a gazebo off the patio with a footbridge going over to it, the footbridge is made up of more pieces the tiki artist carved to my spec's. Then there are some free-standing tikis as well. Plus a tiki bar of course It's a really great summer hangout, the kids like to have friends over for parties during the summer.
W and I are still getting along fine although nothing has changed in our sitch. She invited me to lunch and dinner with her and the kids two weekends ago, then last weekend she asked if we could do the easter egg hunt at my house and then we could all go to lunch which I agreed to. Our kids are getting a bit old for the egg thing, but they still like to do it so what the heck I took some flowers over to W's and she had bought some of my favorite Easter candy.
Pathfinder2, what Ducati do you have? I love Ducatis!
Originally Posted By: waitingformagic
LOVE LOVE LOVE the Castle analogy. How can I save it in "my stuff"
When I see something posted here that I really like, I copy it and paste it into a Word document I keep on my computer. It comes in handy for reposting in other's threads because then you don't have to go searching to find it!
nolongersure, congrats for quitting the A/D's, it sounds like you're doing fantastic!! I read so many horror stories on the 'net about the terrible problems people have suffered trying to get off of A/D's that I was very concerned about quitting them. But it's been over a month now since I took the last one and I've had no problems at all. No signs of depression or anxiety, and I've had a lot of really happy times with few down times. Actually I've been happier than I was before BD, I was so stressed out and worried so much about everything before BD but since BD I've come to realize that life isn't about everything working out perfectly because it NEVER does, so why worry? It's about taking what joy and pleasure you can out of life and not letting the bad stuff ruin it for you. The bad stuff is going to happen, we can sit around worrying about what it's going to be and how bad it will be or we can just have fun and deal with the unknown when it arrives.
Inside Out, I really like your thoughts on "being done", that makes a lot of sense I think the lesson I learned is even when we think we are done we STILL need to give ourselves more time because we may discover in a few weeks that maybe we're not as done as we think we are.
Originally Posted By: 2chiquitos
Keep it up AS!! Your definitely allowing her to live her life and living yours!!
Thank you and that really does sum up where we are right now. We're living separate lives that do have some crossover due to the kids. I really have no idea what W is thinking or where she is in regards to our R, I don't ask and she doesn't offer. I quit talking to family (hers and mine) about our sitch (but I do talk to them about other stuff) and now it's gotten to the point that they don't even ask, LOL! So we're in limbo, but it's not a "bad" limbo where I'm constantly worrying about things, it's more a peaceful limbo where we really are separate and detached. I don't know where it's going and for now that's OK.
