I am almost at 3 months since the bomb dropped and have comfort in knowing that I cant control my wife but I can control MY options. Its all I have- Its insane that a husband (me) is , in essence, helping his wife have a affair by stepping back and giving her room.
but "insane" might be what is needed
The stress and pain you are going through is so real and it sounds like your still in shock- You will get to a point where it hurts less and then you begin to get stronger. Two very tough questions I had to ask myself are " Am I just scared of being alone?" and " Do I want this or am I fighting for my family due to a sense of responsibility or obligation for my son/daughter?"
Your son needs a strong YOU. You need to be strong and healthy for whatever crap your H throws at you and whatever you end up having to face during this hellride.
Neither you or I will have any success if we guilt, beg, remind of the goodtimes, leave "clues" around or talk about our dreams and the future.
Be awesome to yourself and that amazing son of yours- THAT IS ALL YOU CAN DO
Take care of you- your not alone
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
