She has engaged in EA's in the past, she refuses to work on the M, you're in a sexless, loveless M by your W's choice and she therefore has violated the M covenants. That's enough to justify your desire for S or D without even bringing up OM.
I am of course not condoning S or D, DB'ing is all about trying to save the M. I'm just saying that if you want to pursue that then I don't think you should force an ugly curb-side confrontation.
AS, agree with you whole heartedly on the confrontation point but would appreciate it if you could comment more on the rest given that my sitch is similar - minus the EAs (I think at least).
Certainly not enjoying the current setup w/my W and am continuing to try and "stand". I continue to think that's what I signed up for in the vows, staring a family etc.....
Are you saying that it is ok to move on because a spouse is not living up to their end of the M covenant? And if MLC is involved is it a choice?
Just looking for more commentary - not trying to challenge. For the past week or so I have really been struggling with how much is enough.....
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork
