Right, that makes sense also. So it also need the detachment to work a little as well, because with a friend such as Jim, I would not be emotionally attached to my reaction as I would my W.
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.