"applaud loudly for the 1% of positives she does". Sounds gimmicky and it is NOT easy to do, but it helps.

Do it without any expectations of reciprocity and make that clear by either writing it in a quick note or text or saying it on your way out the door. That way she'll know you were not standing there hoping for "payback".


Can you explain this a little better? If she does something that is helpful, and I say " i really appreciate your help" or whatever, do i then have to back it up by saying that I dont expect anything in return?
I'm sorry 25yrsmlc, i might have missed a valuable lesson here.

Also, is getting a DB coach worth it? I imagine that the best thing about it is that they can tailor my goals/ strategies towards my specific situation?

Me - 37
W - 37
M -5
T - 15

S=5
S=3

Seperated - 12/12
BD - 20/03/13
Still seperated - no R or M talk yet.