It's very strange how our wives can act the very same way. I've never witnessed anything like this before. It's so foreign to me, it's like a bad dream that just won't go away. I feel like all this DBing is just living in denial.
I felt our marriage was pretty strong. I felt that it was going pretty well. We would have our fights and disagreements, but she never let on that anything really serious was brewing.
I really feel that the catalyst that started the demise of our marriage was her hooking up with her friends from her country of origin. She has four girlfriends that I would say she is closest to.
Girl #1 was married when we met them. Within a year was going through a divorce. Her ex and she don't get along well. Use the son as a pawn. This girl is now engaged but fights with her fiancee as well.
Girl #2 is married but her husband has been having multiple affairs on her. She can't be happy with that going on. Wife describes her as having no choice but to stay with husband due to immigration status and having kids with an American.
Girl #3 is married, but wants to leave the states. Hates her job, misses her homeland. Is looking for change.
Girl #4 appears to be going through same thing as my wife. Doesn't want her husband. They haven't been intimate in months. She seems to want nothing to do with him.
We are all influenced by who we hang with. Before my wife met these women, things were going well. I will admit that things weren't perfect, but I do believe that if she were to be hanging with a group of women who were happily married, the chances of our marriage surviving this mess would be much greater.
As things are now, it sure does seem like she's got herself a cheerleading squad, and they seem to be telling her or showing her that marriage life is nothing but misery. She spends all her free time texting talking and drinking with them and she doesn't do much with me anymore. There is no way this can be looked at as a good thing for our relationship.
