Life, continued (22+ months)

[labug]

Ad, I remember quite a while ago bringing up your H's actions as abusive and I think your response was very similar then:

>I really think if I stood up in public and called my H abusive he would be outraged and appalled.<

Most abusers would do the same. I don't think an abuser is a good judge of their own actions.

I was abused as a child and it's a difficult thing to get over. I still can't understand why very nice people who saw what was happening didn't step in and say "Stop, this is way over the top."

A confounding fact of abuse is that 2 people can receive the same abusive treatment and be affected in very different ways. The problem is we can't preemptively pick those people who will be most damaged and get them out of harms way.

So we need to protect all those who can't protect themselves.

I know this is tough stuff, I wish you and your boys the best.