Wow. You really are amazing. Listen, my two cents:
Everyday we get conflicting opinions, especially those of us who DB, right? I mean, most of our friends don't understand why we wait, why we forgive and how we deal. But we do what we do because we have decided to walk our own paths. You will decide what to do and what to say and how to deal with all H's behaviours and interactions between you and sons. And you will do what is right for you and the babies. What you feel is right. You already are walking that path and you are more remarkable for taking the time to look at all sides of the insanely complex shape of this life.
I really admire your strength and clarity right now. I don't know if you realize how it shines through, even when you are working towards things, the path is pretty clear.
