The alternative is to continue to wallow in the muck, play the victim, and leave your happiness/agony level in his/her hands. Not only does this hurt you, but it also is very unattractive and hurts your chances of R.
Not detached: H happy, you're happy. H angry, you're angry. H sad, you're sad. Detached: H happy, you're happy. H angry, you're happy. H sad, you're happy.
Think of the most patient you've ever been in your life. That is about 1/100th of the kind of patience you're going to need in the coming months. Patience, patience, patience!
any other good ones I am missing?
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
