my h might deny it and he might not even know it, but I AM SURE that his view of me, when I was a SAHM, changed.
Once the baby was walking, by a year old, he saw me as last valuable or less interesting.
I know I'm mind reading and maybe projecting too...but here's what I did when I sensed it.
I could either go back to work and, at the time I saw that as a disservice to the baby and older kids, OR I could GAL but not at the expense of the baby.
And that's what I did.
I worked hard to GAL and did everything I could when the baby was sleeping or when I had good childcare, and I worked out and looked better, took better care of myelf, etc.
Right or wrong (and I think it's usually wrong but it's irrelevant)
there seems to be a subtle (or not so subtle) shift in power when one person earns all the money.
fwiw
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
