you don't have to ask her to take a quiz for you to figure out her Love language. If we meant for you to give her a quiz, we'd have said so.
Telling you to "figure out" meant for you to do some detecive work and thinking and remembering her past reactions, and you know, you doing it. Not handing her a quiz "because" we told you to...
also I wasn't angry at all about your comments re me and Sandi. I just thought the way you worded things throughout several posts, sounded as if you portrayed yourself as a victim very consistently...and sometimes melodramatically too.
As for the house hubby, I feel for you. I have worked full time, stayed at home full time and done both part time. None are easy,
but IF I had to choose one path, at this stage (with teenagers) then I'd choose part time work BUT ONLY IF I had a partner willing to share more evenly with the child care and home maintenance...b/c otherwise I'm sabotaging my career...
IF my partner was unable/unwilling to help more at home (my h is an MD and most of the time his schedule is demanding, unrelenting and not flexible)
then I'd work full time and hire a housekeeper (which reduced conflict in our home by maybe 3/4)...
when the kids are small, the choices are often harder...I'd probably repeat what I did then, which was to stay home full time when we had our last, 3rd child.
But you probably HAVE had too much on your plate and your wife probably does NOT get that...
then again, I don't know if translation work is stressful compared to her work. For ME, practicing law CAN be stressful (trials always are) but law does not have to be. Mine usually was but it can Depend on the nature of the work.
My h's field of medicine IS ALWAYS stressful as it is in the operating room and he does dangerous work. It's Just how it is.
that's my .02 on this topic...more stuff later...
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