Thanks for clarification on bro-showers. I've never heard of such a thing. If my comments were out of bounds or came across as over-reacting, I'm sorry. Abuse and its varying degrees is a very touchy subject for me as it's at the heart of my marital breakdown. My heart breaks for the men who grow up having experienced things that didn't feel right only to be told boys can't be abused, or that abuse takes one form and one form only. What you say about your H doing what was done to him rings bright, but your instinct around it does not make you a prude and I don't believe it is a result of how you were raised. I didn't grow up in a strict household but am with you on this one. I fart and burp and swear and have tattoos. Sounds worse than it is! :-)
Your situation breaks my heart Ad. I've followed along since I joined and have wished you strength along the way. My husband was always kind (although he hid his past from me) until he stepped out, and I feel so much injustice for people like yourself who have had a different experience. I couldn't even abide his infidelity for one second, but we have no kids and I have a good job so the stakes are different.
Much strength Ad.
me 45 H 46 T 5 M 2.5 BD Sept 6 2011 OW Sept 8 2011 Threw him out Sept 8 2011
