Thanks WFM, this is good advice and helps me out.

So for instance if W says 'I've been looking at those house there, I like the look of them' I should say something like:

'yes, they are nice houses, its a nice area to live in'. or 'yes, it would be a good place to live'

Another thing that crops up is W saying something very simple such as 'who will keep the washing machine'. How do I validate that?

Me: 38 W: 35
M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs
S8 D5
BD: Feb 13
Still Living Together

I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.