"I need that again, as DBing has not been successful so far. "
Don't blame DB. It's obvious things haven't worked out because you haven't changed. You have a temper, you haven't learned to communicate better and changed attitudes towards her and even reading your post, you explain how you know that you have this problem, but then explain that your W is hostile, and how you're trying to "please" her.
She doesn't want you to "please" her. She wanted you to change so that she felt safe to be around you. It doesn't matter how many MC's you go to if the basic problem is that you don't change.
What have you changed? What did the MC's recommend to you?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
