T - I fully agree with Brian above. DB'ing has helped SAVE ME - I really don't think my marriage stood a chance by the time I found it.
You are very strong indeed, to have tried as long as you have knowing about the 6 PA's. You've certainly earned my respect and admiration for your efforts. The downside is that, at least in my experience, more keeps coming out that you really can't deal with any longer - and that seemed to be the case for you as well. I truly am sorry for what you've gone thru recently.