So now, the trick is, how to I SHOW this? Not that I'm a new man overnight, maybe just make it clear I'm getting the message.
Well, for starters, I would say "it's not a trick" -- you do these things for YOU, not for HER. If she notices, great -- bonus.
Let me ask you this rather painful question, but it really helps get to the heart of the matter: what things would you do if you suddenly lost your wife to illness, or a tragic auto accident and she were no longer with you? What improvements would you make, what activities and interests would you pursue, etc., etc.? What are your core beliefs?
Rhetorical questions, Inc., and I'm not looking for you to answer ME on them -- just for you to ponder these things. As Cadet likes to say, "you've been given the gift of time . . . use it wisely."
