I'm trying real hard to be the Shepard.

[reachingHigher]

Btw, when I mention I have frustration with phone issues now is b/c I still don't ask or know what H does on his phone. Nowadays he usually offers info (I'm texting so-and-so about such-and-such or looking up this or that) but I don't ask what he is doing and I don't act interested AT ALL.

I look away if I'm near him by accident and he is looking at it.

I've come to terms with it. And I really don't think in a healthy R you always have to say EVERYTHING. I just mean by the above post that you can use this "evil" to your advantage.