Today, my H picked up the kids for a little. I dressed in a decent outfit and put on some makeup. When he got here, I grabbed my coat and asked what time he'd be bringing the kids back so I knew when to be home. IT WORKED!!!! He thought I had a date. He noticed my outfit and the fact that I had makeup on. When he dropped off the kids, he didn't come in the house though. Is this progress or is it a setback? I could really use the advice of someone who's been through the LRT...
First, drop the expectations. You have expectations that one little thing like this might change the dynamics and possibly make him change his mind. It won't. This isn't a sprint, it's a marathon. You're going to need to do 180's on your faults in the M and give your H time and space. Expect it to take many months before you even start to see positive signs. We all come here initially expecting quick fixes. None of us ever gets one. Read the signatures of the people posting here, many have been at it for 6 months to a year. Some longer. Just slow down, take a deep breath, relax. Read DR. Develop your plan- 180's and GAL activities. Work on yourself. Good luck!
