There is no guarantee on how your W will react/respond to any of this. The real question is who do you want to be? How can you become the man you want to be and project that in a way that she will come to see as the new, improved you.
I agree with this. ^^^
The folks on the MLC forum call this working on what "stings." They mean, of all of your wayward wife's marital complaints, which are the ones that "STING?" The ones that YOU know, in your own gut, are really things that you do need to work at, whether it be to safe this marriage or to be successful in a future relationship?
The caveat, of course, is to base this on some serious introspection on your OWN part -- coupled with older, past marital complaints -- and not on recent complaints from an actively-wayward spouse. Because 90%+ of those are gaslighted, re-writing-of-marital-history b.s. used to rationalize their own infidelity.
