My wife is still 100% certain that this is what she wants and needs. Its beginning to drive me a little crazy now, and I am not sure how much more I can listen to W's comments about our lack of future together.
BD was just 6 weeks ago, were you expecting her to have a change of heart this fast? For now you should not expect her to be anything other than resolute about ending the M. The best you should hope for right now is limbo, if she quits talking about D then that is progress. But it'll be many more months before you start seeing baby steps. Think of the most patient you've ever been in your life. That is about 1/100th of the kind of patience you're going to need in the coming months.
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This mixed with W looking better than she has done for years, and showing me clothes she now fits in that she has not managed to fit in since we met. Its all becoming very difficult.
Well then you need to see her hand and raise it!! If she looks good, then you need to look GREAT! Get healthy, work out, get new clothes, style your hair, whiten your teeth, get a tan. It'll make you feel better about yourself and it'll get her attention too.
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I am trying to detach and was doing well, but I keep getting pulled back in by W, and the fun we are having together.
Not detached: W happy, you're happy. W angry, you're angry. W sad, you're sad.
Detached: W happy, you're happy. W angry, you're happy. W sad, you're happy.
