IMHO just give yourself some time. YOU don't need to push for a D right NOW. It can always be on the table. For your own well-being though, for NOW, focus on your health. Leave this ugliness for awhile.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home