Sounds kind of hopeless if what I'm supposed to do is also what's making things worse.
Do not pursue. That said, be available when she initiates communication, then validate and be the new you.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
