WFM I really feel for you. I know these situations are painful. You are so hyper focused on your H you are giving me anxiety reading your posts.
You are worried about H reconciling and dangling carrots. Your worried about your husband participating in reconciling.
You need to understand something. This has been drilled at your 100's of times and you seem to ignore or you are so frantic that you forget.
You need to FOCUS ON YOURSELF. Period. Do not worry about what your husband is doing. Yes you shouldn't have asked where your H was. Your R with your H is over, caput, gone, no more, will never exist as is.
But when you start focusing on yourself and truly looking inward and making changes that are positive along with space you can start a new R with your H. Become a person only a fool would want to leave, if he decides to still leave he is a fool and your changes will benefit your next R.
It is so simple a caveman can do it. Kidding.
I am not being mean but man I wouldnt want to date some so spastic as you. You have so much work to do on yourself and your worried about your H's sandox. Seriously?
I challenge you not to mention your H for a week. You can't do it.
As far as your business goes nobody on this site really can help you. You know what is in the best interest of you. Your going to let your fear of losing your H run your business.
You have 2 options:
1. D your H 2. Divorce bust. When you going to start doing 2.
