Ok, I'm no expert here, but maybe what you should ask yourself is if you want to be in this business.

Is it important to YOU? What would you do instead? This is part of the withdrawal/detach process.

Your H "wins" because you let him. Take some time and really look at what you want. Do you enjoy this biz? Do you enjoy being a biz owner. Take out of your mind whether this is a carrot dangle or what not. It's your biz too.

M: 9 yrs
T: 13 yrs
H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months
Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs
Dbing 12/12
S 1/13
7/13 H moved back in basement.
8/13 #3 born
10/13 still cheating
10/13 He moves across country, I file for D