After phone coaching session #2

[labug]

You mindread a lot. Do you realize that? I ask because I have that tendency and never knew that's what I was doing until someone pointed it out.

Your H is inching closer to you. It may or may not end up where you want it, but he is inching closer. If your goal is to reconcile, let it happen. Stop worrying about what every little thing means.

About the belt, he told you why he sent the link. He wants to know what you would like. (I have to say, if my H did this I would be dancing a jig)Send him a link of something you would like and tell him how thoughtful he is.

If you have $199 to spend, buy the belt. If not, tell him that. (We'd love to but I just can't afford it.)

I have a bit of a different perspective on helping kids with gift-giving and this has evolved over time. Talk with the girls about what they would like to give Dad for important occasions. Help them figure out much they can spend, how to make the money and/or you pitch in some. This is about your D's R with their Dad, not your D's R with your husband. If helping them out with that is something you would have done before, why does that change now? He is still their dad.

(let's face it, he's been a sh!t dad this year)

So do you want to punish him? Playing the punishment/reward game never works. If it did, I wouldn't be here.

I want to reply & say 'seriously? you do realize you left & I don't have to do anything for you anymore?'

Does this move you closer to your goal?