Examples of validating:

1) Im thinking of getting a motorcycle ... yes, getting a bike might be good for going for a ride to clear your head.

2) We fought way too often ... I understand. Inspite of all our stresses, the arguing was the icing on the cake.

Find something that she is saying that you can repeat back to her that says you understand it from her point.

Good luck.


M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)