Emotional Affairs

[Incandenza]

The affair that is happening is very real. I know who the person is. He is a coworker. I definitely want to carry on, I recognize that infidelity (even if just emotional) is a symptom of a bigger issue in our marriage and I want to work on that. I know I haven't been perfect and my emotional distance (from her perspective) drove her to where she is now.

Thank you for sharing that link. I am searching through Allen A's posts and I am looking for some more affair-busting techniques, strategies, etc, not finding a lot... any more info?

I think probably I'd be best off setting her free but at this point that's what she really wants the most anyway. Me becoming aggressive isn't likely to fix anything at this point.