"My exFIL is a sad, beaten down man who has no say."

You know he made choices, too. These things don't happen in a vacuum and each player plays a part.

Spring and Easter are times of rebirth and renewal. As crappy as the wake-up calls was, it is a gift, the gift of rebirth and renewal if we choose to accept it.

For me, one of the most important effects of this is children seeing parents grow and change and work to become better. Just as your W learned her skills from her parents, so will your Ds learn their's from the 2 of you.

Good luck, FM, you have a lot on your plate right now.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss