2.4 - Getting caught back up on your sitch and I agree with the others. Validate what she's saying doesn't mean you're agreeing. Just make sure you don't fall into any sort of fight. Sounds strange but it's the only way I know how to explain it. Early on I would be validating nicely and then all of a sudden I'd say something that was a little defensive or could be taken that way and off she went... So my advice, validate but make it short and sweet.
Originally Posted By: mrtwopointfour
it is a hard time, living with W is not helping but at same time think its easier for W to notice change if she is here. Maybe though not so easier to see grass is not always greener.
Actions speak louder than words and best way for them to see actions is staying together. No doubt it's hard as hell and makes detaching very difficult. I've almost move out 3 different times in last 6 months so I understand.
Other thing to think about is staying allows your kids to see your actions and for me that's an even bigger deal. My kids see me as their rock and see me standing for something important. They feel comfortable talking about tough things with me and I'm able to teach them things that will hopefully stay with them forever (love, loyalty, respect, dedication, standing for what I believe in, being a christian man, etc...).
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
