It has been a good week and that has nothing to do with W and I getting on better (nothing has changed). I did have a talk with PIL about my D who is 9 and they did not know about. It was such a relief after all this time. I think they took it well as they know it was before W and I were married. MIL probed more into our M and I tried as much as I can avoid it but did tell her we were having some issues and are in MC. She also asked if my S and D will ever meet and I told her of my desire to bring D to live with me/us. The next day I spoke with W and she asked me how it went. I told her it was ok. She said she talked to her about it briefly and that she told her about us seeing MC. I asked W how her conversation went (since she was not looking forward to it). She said it that MIL said she has to change her will now since apparently I was in the will if W and PIL die. I said “hmm ok”. W started asking me why I was mad.. I think she was looking to start a fight because she should know better than to think I am looking for money from her parents IN THE EVENT they die. Come on now. And I do understand if they do that but that is not even in my radar. Even though I was more annoyed at her assuming I would be mad, I did not take the bait. I told her I am not mad and don’t have anything to be mad about.
I did have IC the following day and she talked to the MC and thinks the only reason why W is still in the M is she did not know how to break it to her family. I told her I still do love W and would like to work on things but I am ok if she wants to leave. I will continue to strive to be in a better place as a person as man and as a father. I have been a high of feeling good about my recent outlook on the whole situation and the acceptance of it. I hope it continues. Next big convo is about my living situation. Living room, basement, or my own place…. Oh wait, all rooms in the house except son’s bed room should be in play including master bed room. And I shouldn’t have to be the one to make these changes either so we’ll see. Wish me luck. W is a lawyer so who knows, she might have me convinced I should move out of the country J/K lol.
Me:36,W:37 M:8, T:13 S:3yo, D:10yo (mine) BD 10/12 and 01/13 DBing since 02/13 W moved out 8/13