I found Limbo Land

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2.4, AnotherStander said this to me regarding validating her feelings even if you don't agree with it.

"W, I want you to stay here with me and work on the M. But I hear you saying that separation is what it will take for you to be happy, and above all I want you to be happy. So I support your decision, and will help you in any way I can."

The idea is not to agree or disagree, but just to let them know that you support them in THEIR decision, whatever that decision may be.


I believe there isn't much you can do to change her mind but make yourself to be a better person and if that brings her back great, if not, you are still a better person.

I have tried all the stuff you are not suppose to do without even realizing it as it comes naturally when the person you love drops the bomb. That just pushes the WAS away and they start to lose respect for you which does not help anything. It is such an emotional time and hard to navigate it correctly. I don't believe you should agree to everything they say either but let them know you hear their point. You don't want to look like you are not listening or ignoring their issue. Like you said, that will look like "same old thing". Realize your part of the problem and address that within yourself.