WOW cbtdad... sounds good. I wish I could be a month ahead of no Rtalks/temp checks. I will make that a goal too. I neeed to stop walking on eggshells and start standing up for myself, not allowing h to find reasons to be "mad" at me. I guess the way to do this is ... if a sitch happens, calmly tell him I will not accept his tone & that we can discuss this at another time (180). Or, if any "eye rolling" from h happens, to ignore it and do what I was going to do regardless of his eye rolling (180)..... am I doing this right yet?
That's exactly what you need to be doing. Set a short term goal, like one week of no R talks. Once the week is up, add another. Then bump it to two, then a month. You will se that you CAN do this.
It's self discipline. This afternoon, my wife has spent the whole time on the computer. This is something that she has been doing ever since our difficulties started. I would love to know what she is doing there. I have a choice to make. I choose to think about something else! I just positioned myself I front of the tv to watch a NASCAR race.
